How strong is your marriage? 💍

“Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value] ...”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬ ‭AMP‬‬

Every relationship has its own rhythm, but have you ever wondered where yours really stands? Don’t take each other for granted this New Year. Treat each other with mutual love, respect, and understanding in every area of your marriage/relationship.

Test the temperature of your marriage by taking my thoughtful Marriage Wellness Quiz to help you take a closer look. It’s simple, honest, covers all areas, and is designed to give you clarity about your relationship’s strengths and the area(s) that might need a little extra care.

Answer the questions honestly to evaluate your relationship’s health. Let’s do this together because a healthy, thriving marriage is worth the effort.

Marriage Wellness Quiz

1. Communication

How often do you and your spouse have open, honest conversations about your feelings, goals, and concerns?

• A) Regularly, and we feel understood.
• B) Occasionally, but we struggle to go deeper.
• C) Rarely, and it often leads to conflict or misunderstandings.

2. Conflict Resolution

When disagreements arise, how do you handle them?

• A) We address the issue calmly and seek a resolution together.
• B) We try, but it often feels unresolved.
• C) We avoid or escalate conflicts, leading to distance.

3. Quality Time

How much intentional time do you spend together as a couple?

• A) Frequently, with activities we both enjoy.
• B) Occasionally, but our schedules make it tough.
• C) Rarely, and we feel disconnected.

4. Intimacy and Affection

How satisfied are you with the level of physical and emotional intimacy in your relationship?

• A) Very satisfied—we prioritize connection.
• B) Somewhat satisfied—there’s room for improvement.
• C) Dissatisfied—it feels like we’re drifting apart.

5. Trust

How much do you trust your spouse to be honest, faithful, and supportive?

• A) Completely—I have no doubts.
• B) Mostly—but I have occasional concerns.
• C) Not much—trust is a challenge for us.

6. Shared Goals

Do you and your spouse align on long-term goals (e.g., finances, parenting, lifestyle)?

• A) Yes, we’re on the same page and support each other.
• B) Somewhat, but we disagree on important issues.
• C) No, our priorities feel very different.

7. Emotional Support

How supportive is your spouse during challenging times?

• A) Very supportive—they’re my rock.
• B) Somewhat supportive, but I sometimes feel alone.
• C) Not supportive—I don’t feel I can rely on them.

8. Fun and Playfulness

How often do you laugh, have fun, or act playful together?

• A) Regularly—we genuinely enjoy each other’s company.
• B) Occasionally, but life feels more serious than fun.
• C) Rarely—we’ve lost that spark.

9. Personal Growth

Do you and your spouse encourage each other’s personal growth and individual goals?

• A) Always—we celebrate each other’s achievements.
• B) Sometimes, but there’s room for more support.
• C) Rarely—I feel unsupported or criticized.

10. Forgiveness

How do you handle forgiveness in your relationship?

• A) We forgive easily and work to rebuild trust.
• B) We struggle with letting go of past issues.
• C) Resentment lingers, and it’s hard to move on.

11. Financial Management

How well do you and your spouse work together on finances?

• A) Very well—we have shared goals and communicate openly.
• B) Fairly well, but money is a frequent stressor.
• C) Poorly—our financial approaches often conflict.

12. Parenting/Family Dynamics

(Skip this question if you don’t have children.)

How well do you and your spouse collaborate in parenting or managing family dynamics?

• A) Very well—we’re a united team.
• B) Somewhat well, but we disagree on key issues.
• C) Poorly—we often feel at odds.

13. Managing In-Laws

How do you treat each other’s parents?

• A) With utmost respect like my own parents.
• B) I try to love and respect them, but sense some pushback.
• C) Don’t really care about them – they expect too much.

14. Visiting In-Laws

Based on #13 above, how often do you visit your spouse’s parents?

• A) Often; every other month, including their birthdays and holidays.
• B) Occasionally; only on their birthdays.
• C) Rarely; once in a blue/red moon.

15. Visiting In-Laws (b)

Also based on #13 above, do you and spouse allow each other’s parents to visit your home? If so, does their visit affect your relationship while they are around and/or linger when they leave?

• A) Yes, they can and do visit. No, their presence has no effect on us at all.
• B) Yes, they do visit. Yes, their presence affects us while they are around and even when they leave. As such, we limit the frequency of their visits.
• C) No, they don’t visit.

16. Spiritual Connection

Do you and your spouse share and nurture a spiritual connection or shared values?

• A) Yes, our beliefs bring us closer.
• B) Somewhat—we respect each other’s views but don’t prioritize this area.
• C) No, spirituality or shared values are a source of tension.

17. Resilience

How does your relationship cope during times of stress or crisis?

• A) We pull together and support each other.
• B) We try, but it’s a challenge to stay connected.
• C) Stress often creates distance or conflict.

18. Future Vision

How confident are you about the future of your relationship?

• A) Very confident—I see us growing stronger.
• B) Somewhat confident, but I have doubts.
• C) Not confident—I’m unsure about our future.

Scoring

Mostly A’s: Your relationship is thriving! You and your spouse have a strong foundation of communication, trust, and mutual respect. Keep nurturing these areas to maintain your connection.

Mostly B’s: Your relationship is stable but could use some attention. Focus on the areas where you scored lower to build a deeper connection and resolve lingering concerns.

Mostly C’s: Your relationship may be in need of serious care. Consider having honest conversations, seeking counseling, or dedicating more effort to rebuilding trust and intimacy.

 

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This Quiz can equally be used by those in any type of relationship; boyfriend-girlfriend, fiancé-fiancée, dating, and/or those “checking each other out.” Not that I approve the latter, but there is a lot of that going on. As such, will be nice to include. Taking this Quiz will be a precursor to testing such relationships.