https://videopress.com/v/qTeDwcw3?resizeToParent=true&cover=true&preloadContent=metadata&useAverageColor=true I have been sleeping all these years (or was it comatose?) and finally woke up by a word I read. Yes, you got that right - a word! Well, maybe six words which said “died at 39, buried at 70!” It hit home like thunder striking at my heart and fire shot through my … Continue reading I have been in a comatose (literally!)
Perspectives on Marriage
“So You Think You’re Ready …”
eBook Cover I’m passionate about many things, particularly, marriage, family, and relationships. I’ve blogged tons about it and have been working on a book to share my experiences. The book is taking much longer than anticipated, but this eBook marks the first step. If we all “prepared” for marriage, I’m sure there’d be fewer divorces, … Continue reading “So You Think You’re Ready …”
The Case for Monogamy in Relationships —Particularly in Marriage
In a world where commitment is increasingly viewed as optional, where “open” relationships and polyamory are gaining cultural traction, the case for monogamy (aka one man, one woman) remains as strong as ever — especially in marriage. Monogamy is more than just a societal norm or religious principle; it is the foundation upon which deep … Continue reading The Case for Monogamy in Relationships —Particularly in Marriage
Empowering Women in Relationships:
The month of March has been declared Women’s Month. What better month to serve as a reminder to talk/write about empowering women in every aspect of life: in business, marriage/family, work space, education, politics, governance, STEAM, etc. This post is however about empowering women in relationships, especially in marriage. Empowerment in relationships isn’t about control … Continue reading Empowering Women in Relationships:
The Power of Choice: Why Choosing Wisely Whom You Marry Is Essential
How do you know who it’s going to be? Marriage is one of the most significant decisions anyone can make. It is not merely a social contract or a romantic endeavor; it is a life-altering commitment that can either elevate your existence or become a source of profound sorrow. The adage, “Divorce is evil so … Continue reading The Power of Choice: Why Choosing Wisely Whom You Marry Is Essential
Love & Marriage: 30 Things You Won’t Do—And 30 You’ll Be Compelled to Do, Just Because
Ah, love and marriage! They say love makes the world go round, but in marriage, it also makes the dishes get done, the car mysteriously refill with gas, and the last slice of cake magically end up on your spouse’s plate (even when you really wanted it). ************************************** 🤍❤️💗 Happy Valentine’s Day! To all lovebirds … Continue reading Love & Marriage: 30 Things You Won’t Do—And 30 You’ll Be Compelled to Do, Just Because
Self-Love Focus: Loving Yourself First to Love Your Spouse
Many people enter relationships hoping to find fulfillment, validation, and happiness through their spouses. However, the truth is that a strong, healthy relationship starts with self-love. You cannot fully love someone else if you don’t love yourself first. When you cultivate self-love, you bring confidence, emotional stability, and a sense of completeness into the relationship … Continue reading Self-Love Focus: Loving Yourself First to Love Your Spouse
Challenges and Outcomes of Marrying the Wrong Person: A Three-Part Series
Different married couples Marriage is often portrayed as a union of love, trust, and mutual respect, but the reality is that not every marital journey unfolds as smoothly as expected. For some individuals, saying “I do” to the wrong person can lead to a myriad of challenges and outcomes that profoundly impact their lives. From … Continue reading Challenges and Outcomes of Marrying the Wrong Person: A Three-Part Series
What Does Freedom and Equity Look Like in Marriage? Should They Exist?
Marriage, at its core, is a partnership. It’s a union where two individuals come together, bringing their unique perspectives, values, and strengths to create a life together. But what happens when questions of freedom and equity arise? Are they essential to a healthy marriage, or do they undermine its foundation? It all depends on which … Continue reading What Does Freedom and Equity Look Like in Marriage? Should They Exist?
Towards Financial Freedom: A Married Couple’s Guide to Unity in Finances
Marriage and Money Introduction “When two become one” isn’t just about sharing a last name or a home. It’s about uniting every aspect of your lives, including finances. For many couples, navigating money matters can be one of the most challenging and rewarding parts of marriage. Whether you’re newlyweds or seasoned partners, building a solid … Continue reading Towards Financial Freedom: A Married Couple’s Guide to Unity in Finances
Part 3: Should a Man Listen to His Mom’s Advice About His Relationship?
The man in the middle of a relationship triangle This is our final post of our article on whether sons should listen to their mothers regarding their relationships. In Part 1, we reviewed the Pros and Cons of men taking relationship advice from their mothers and gave advice to mothers who have unresolved feelings about … Continue reading Part 3: Should a Man Listen to His Mom’s Advice About His Relationship?
Should a Man Listen to His Mom’s Advice About His Relationship? Weighing the Pros and Cons
Man torn between the women in his life Counseling a man, supposedly, in love is a tricky issue for anyone to dabble into. Same for women. However, and generally speaking, women are more levelheaded in receiving relationship advices than men. But what happens when the counseling or advice is coming from the man’s mother or … Continue reading Should a Man Listen to His Mom’s Advice About His Relationship? Weighing the Pros and Cons
Part II – Separation
Is there a place for Separation when a marriage is in distress? The answer is: Maybe. Separation, like Divorce, is hard on the Family Separation can work in very specific cases—when both parties genuinely want to reconcile but need a break from the conflict to refocus on themselves and what they want from the marriage. … Continue reading Part II – Separation
Let’s talk about Separation in Marriage – Part I
Couples on verge of a separation Among women aged 15-44 years, 51% divorce after one year of separation, 76% after three years, and 84% after five years(onlinedivorce.com) Personally, separation doesn’t make sense. Why Separate, Given the Subsequent Divorce Rates? The statistics — 51% divorce after one year, 76% after three years, and 84% after five … Continue reading Let’s talk about Separation in Marriage – Part I
There are still …
Has divorce become a calculated harm and marriage now at your own risk? There are still good-to-great guys and ladies out there who desire a good-to-great marriage. Why did I say that? I had an interesting conversation with a young lady who I’ll call Tara. She started by sharing with me that she recently got … Continue reading There are still …
Vulnerability in Relationships: The Key to Genuine Connection
Vulnerability in Relationships builds deeper Intimacy In a world where strength and independence are often celebrated, vulnerability can sometimes be perceived as a weakness. However, in the realm of relationships, vulnerability is not only a strength but a crucial component for fostering deep and meaningful connections. Embracing vulnerability in relationships can lead to greater intimacy, … Continue reading Vulnerability in Relationships: The Key to Genuine Connection
The Silent Signals: Hold, Touch, and Look
Different Silent Signals There’s an unspoken language in the way a man holds a woman—those small, tender gestures that speak volumes about his feelings. A gentle touch, a protective arm around her shoulders, or a reassuring handhold can convey love, care, and a promise of protection. But what about the men who don’t show these … Continue reading The Silent Signals: Hold, Touch, and Look
God’s Perspective on Common Misconceptions: Relationship Myths Debunked
Myths or God? Marriages, love, and relationships are unique, and while certain myths about each persist, it’s essential to understand them through the lens of biblical wisdom. Let’s hear God’s perspective on marriage, love, and relationships and debunk some common myths with insights from scripture. Myth #1: “Never Go to Bed Angry" Ephesians 4:26 says, … Continue reading God’s Perspective on Common Misconceptions: Relationship Myths Debunked
10 Unexpected Ways to Surprise Each Other
Surprise Each Other Just because you’ve now captured each other, or the babies are popping in, does not mean that the dating and romance ends. It’s always good to rekindle the romance in a relationship. Most couples are great at doing so while dating, but sadly and quickly forget once married. The romance candle that … Continue reading 10 Unexpected Ways to Surprise Each Other
Values and Core Values: In Marriage
A married couple thinking of their Values and Core Values The Vacuum Metaphor Your Values and Core Values must have been known, understood, and worn like a futuristic collar around your neck way before marriage. This is necessary so you don’t enter into marriage and lose yourself. If there is a vacuum in one’s life, … Continue reading Values and Core Values: In Marriage
Where does Married Couples’ arguments come from?
Beauty and the Beast arguing The consensus is that finance and sex are the culprits for most arguments and divorces. Do you agree? Maybe. I strongly believe though that finance and sex are by-products. If all other things are right, the marriage can survive. Take for example, if the one who desires more sex suddenly … Continue reading Where does Married Couples’ arguments come from?
8 Tips on How to Keep Your Marriage Alive
Credits: Pexel I have attended more weddings this year than I have in a very long time. I marvel at the intense resources (money, efforts, and time) that goes into planning weddings and begin to wonder why such efforts aren’t put into sustaining the marriage. Wedding is only the beginning and it can be paralleled … Continue reading 8 Tips on How to Keep Your Marriage Alive
S-Spiritual Development: So you think you’re ready for Marriage
Credits: Pexels The Spiritual Development is the seventh post continuing with the PEMFESS+P Series; So you think you’re ready for Marriage. In my opinion, the Spiritual Development, should actually be the first step because all the other developments build upon it. But, as I previously stated, the acronym, PEMFESS, just fits in better. Spirituality means … Continue reading S-Spiritual Development: So you think you’re ready for Marriage
So you think you’re ready for Marriage; how are you in your S-Social Development? Part I
Credits: Unsplash / Duy Pham “I have friends in high places” was a saying among my siblings and friends during our teenage to young adult lives. We used to say it to one another when asked how we amazingly got certain things done. To us, the saying did not mean the obvious reference to influential … Continue reading So you think you’re ready for Marriage; how are you in your S-Social Development? Part I
Part II: So you think you’re ready for Marriage; how are you in your S-Social Development?
Credits: Unsplash / Duy Pham It is advisable to have a good and diverse social network. In the Psychology and medical worlds, healthy social development skills begin at infancy and follows us through adulthood. These skills are necessary and important in order to develop into a healthy child. A lack of, or delayed, development in … Continue reading Part II: So you think you’re ready for Marriage; how are you in your S-Social Development?
When love is not enough
Can a relationship or marriage be sustained by love alone? What instances could love not be enough in marriage or a relationship? I’m learning that people marry for different reasons, other than love. Call me naive if you want, but I’ve always thought that the only reason one married is because they love one another … Continue reading When love is not enough
So you think you’re ready for marriage. How’s your E-Educational Development?
Credits: Unsplash / Tim Mossholder Literacy in itself is no education. Literacy is not the end of education or even the beginning. By education I mean an all-round drawing out of the best in the child and man-body, mind and spirit.Mahatma Gandhi Education does not stop after graduation from high school or college/university. Real educational … Continue reading So you think you’re ready for marriage. How’s your E-Educational Development?
What is Formal Education?
Credits: Pexels I’m gearing up for the second E-Development, Educational, in the PEMFESS+P Series. As I began penning, I segued into writing about Education as a preamble. What exactly is Education? Is it necessary - why or why not? After the first preamble, I realized that I had assumed all readers knew what formal education … Continue reading What is Formal Education?
So you think you’re ready for marriage … How’s your F-Financial Development?
Our fourth post in the pre-marriage series, PEMFESS + P, is the F-Financial Development. Click here for the M-Mental Development. Preamble Money. Money. Money. We can’t do without it and only few can live wisely with it. To be respected in most marriages, you must contribute financially to its success. It’s sad that love is … Continue reading So you think you’re ready for marriage … How’s your F-Financial Development?
M-Mental Development: PEMFESS+P
Credits: Unsplash / Matthew Ball Mental health and development is encompassing and this post cannot do it enough justice that it deserves. I started writing this post couple of weeks ago. It seems such a daunting topic to write that I have made endless edits every time I reviewed it. Since it’s been that long … Continue reading M-Mental Development: PEMFESS+P
So you think you’re ready … how is your E-Emotional Development
Credits: Unsplash / Left, Robina Weermeijer. Right, Tengyart PEMFESS+P: The First E-Emotional Development A lot can be unpacked as regards Emotions. Your emotions impact every area of your life. It is your brain and feelings connection. When fully grounded in the emotions, other areas will be positive. Similarly, out-of-control emotions negatively impact other areas of … Continue reading So you think you’re ready … how is your E-Emotional Development
Of In-Laws and Out-Laws
In-laws and Out-lawsEvery where and no whereWhere did they come fromAnd why are they so named? Is’t all about benefits?One thinkingYou brought moreWhile the otherSupposed you’re taking benefits away. Whose benefits anyways? Didn’t God sayHe or sheWould leave you some day.That some day is now. But In-laws and Out-lawsSuppose they’re neverComing back again Why make … Continue reading Of In-Laws and Out-Laws
Of Marriage and Divorce
They found each otherafter experiencing others On the dating field of romance, heartaches, and false promisesNo other could match up It was nice thatThey experienced thoseJust to wait for each otherAnd to know that they wanted none of the others. They were meant for each other foreverThey were meant to be, to meet, and to … Continue reading Of Marriage and Divorce
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