We posed the question, in our previous blog, should-love-or-marriage-be-based-on-a-business-or-love-first-model.
We talked about the business-first model and what relationships would be like if we adopted that model. If you missed it, click bit.ly/2Czm55T to read it.
Today, we review the other type of relationship; love-first model. It should be a no-brainer that relationships are based on love, right? No! It’d amaze even Venus that it’s not so!
What is love?
Dictionary.com https://www.dictionary.com/browse/love offers a few definitions of: ‘love’ as:
- a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person;
- sexual passion or desire.
- a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
What is the love-first model?
It is the kind that marriages and relationships ought to be about. It is also the kind where each edifies the other above one self. The Bible provides us with a standard:
“Love suffers long, and is kind;
love envies not;
love vaunts not itself, is not puffed up,
Love does not behave itself unseemly, seeks not his/her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil;
Love rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails: ….”1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV
This is the utmost kind of relationship everyone desires and/or should aspire to. But how do we get it?
How can we enter into this ideal model?
I believe that this kind of relationship is possible when men wisely choose their ladies and the ladies patiently wait for their other half to search them out. Then, there is dignity, mutual respect, and appreciation in love.
If marriages and relationships are based on the love-first model, there will be no occurrences of separation, divorce, or leaving one another. The relationship one enters into, will culminate into marriages till death does one or both apart. That, to me, is the ideal kind!
But since we do have incidents of separation and divorces, is’t then safe to say that either one of the parties chose the wrong partner to begin with or that one or both entered into the relationship under pretense or that the marriage or relationship was entered into for the wrong reasons? Maybe? Only both parties can tell.
Now that you know what love really is, which would you choose as your model for marriage or relationship; the business-first or the love-first?
For the love-first model, pray and have a confirmation in your spirit that you are choosing wisely because the alternative (aka wrong choice) can be disastrous.
Love and Peace!